Security blanket

Megan Carter   -  

So whether you’re a parent or think back to when you were a kid did you or your kids have a security blanket, like something they don’t want to go anywhere else without. They can’t go to sleep without it, they can’t do multiple things without this blanket or a special toy, whatever it may be. Well, as an adult I had a security blanket. No, I’m not talking about the toy or a blanket but I had a security blanket that I couldn’t go a day without. 

Security blankets bring us comfort and they help us feel good when times get tough. They are with us when fear is present and can help us not worry so much. That’s one powerful item. Right? Usually, we grow out of our security blankets but I realized as an adult I gained a new security blanket. What was it you might ask…  Shapewear. Surprise! That probably wasn’t your first thought right? But as crazy as it may sound I could not go a day without wearing some sort of Cami that had compression in it to hold everything in. Now I’m not saying that shapewear is bad because girl I know that I need them sometimes and there are days and outfits that I just need a little extra smoothness.

It got to the point where I was wearing it every single day. It didn’t matter what the outfit was. It didn’t matter if I was just wearing a T-shirt or even something baggy. I was still wearing the Shapewear. To some people, this may not seem like a big deal, but to me, I hid behind that Shapewear and it caused me to have a lot of anxiety when I would wear an outfit that I didn’t feel comfortable in and I definitely didn’t know how to wear an outfit without it. It was a crutch that I leaned on time and time again and I didn’t feel like I could do anything else without it. Just like as a kid that has that one special toy that they take everywhere, this was my security blanket as an adult.

I tried many times before to give it up and never realized how much of a hold it had on me. So, after figuring out what kind of power this stupid piece of fabric had over me I decided to break up with my security blanket. During quarantine since I was home, I decided it was the best time to get rid of it, once and for all. The release that I felt once I stopped wearing it and the confidence that came out of me was more than I ever thought possible. It wasn’t easy and I had to fight a lot of mental battles to get through my past mindset.  If you have your own security blanket that you are wanting to ditch. Give yourself grace and have patience with yourself. When I thought that shapewear was something I needed to feel confident, but once I got rid of it in everyday use I became the most confident person I’ve ever been in my life. How crazy is that?

So what’s your security blanket? What is the thing that you can’t go a day without and if you do you feel like you’re having a withdrawal from that thing? When you identify what your security blanket is, look at the steps that you can take to break up with it. No, it may not be completely out of your life in a flash. I know we always like “microwave” results, but this may take time and that’s OK. Believe me, it took time to get where I’m at today because it’s a process and it’s a process you’ll be thankful for after you make it; even though it’s not always easy in the middle of it but I think that’s also God refining us to create something new and fresh. If you’ve ever read the Words he brings beauty from ashes. Sometimes our ashes are our mess or that security blanket that we hold tight to and don’t wanna let go; but maybe, just maybe letting go of that security blanket completely will free you and give you freedom from things that have been held over your life for a long, long time. So go for it, be ridiculously bold, and take that first step into a new you and a new freedom that you have never seen before

I pray that this blog today was an encouragement to you and can help in your daily life. Always know I am available to pray with you or just be someone to talk to when life gets hard. E-mail me at if you need prayer! 

Talk to you next Monday!