Things no one told me

Megan Carter   -  

Have you ever had this thought? “I wish there was an instruction manual on [fill in the blank].” That’s not just me, right? A manual would have been nice for getting married, becoming a mom, and really one on just being an adult. When you step into a new stage in life are you just supposed to gain magical knowledge to be able to do whatever is in front of us? Unfortunately, we don’t get a manual for life but we do get to surround ourselves with others who have already been through it and learn from their successes and mistakes. 

Even when surrounding yourself with amazing women there are things that no one tells you and I would like to think it’s because we have suppressed some of the negative things to just remember the positive. The positive outweighs the negative. Just like in childbirth, it’s this beautiful experience but in all reality it is painful and quite honestly gross. A lot of times we forget about all the “mess” because of the beautiful baby we have in our arms. Only with one exception being that I remember that experience in its entirety, maybe that’s why I’m sharing these tips with you. Let’s go. 

Let me share with you a few of my “no one ever told me” tips. 

  • The ideal image you have of what marriage is going to look like. Just throw that out because every marriage looks different. What do you expect when you have two people who are completely different from each other come together and work to build a life together. There are bound to be bumps in the road. This one might burst your bubble. Your opinion on what marriage should look like, hear me out, might not be the only way a marriage can function. 
  • You may not get to prep and prepare for having “the talk” with your child so be ready at any moment. This is true and really happened to me with my oldest, fun times…
  • You may have heard women joke around about how they pee a little when they sneeze or laugh too hard after having kids but no one prepares you for what happens when you jump on a trampoline after having kids. Let’s just say you may need a change of clothes. 
  • If your child has a friend and that friend has cool parents, do everything you can to grow that relationship. Let’s be honest, if your kids are going to hang out it is really nice to like the parents and even better you actually have fun hanging out. 
  • It is hard to make friends as an adult, but those friends will also be the most loyal and valuable relationship you will have.
  • Sometimes the hardest thing to do is admit you are wrong.

These are just a few tips, but I would love to hear what are some of the experiences you have had that no one ever told you about. Email me with your tips and I will share them on a later blog. 

I pray that this blog today was an encouragement to you and can help in your daily life. Always know I am available to pray with you or just be someone to talk to when life gets hard. E-mail me at if you need prayer! 

Talk to you soon!